I've always doubted this 'First impression is the best'. We often used to hear this during our PDP classes for placements. But ever since i've known about this saying, i have been wondering, how true it is and can be?
It's human nature to lose interest in things after some time. Be it materialistic, or a subject of study or a person for that matter. Something, which seemed quite interesting at first can turn out to be a boring stuff after some time? Such being the case, how can a first impression remain the best all the time?
Take for example, a book you start reading. How often does this happen to you that, starting, you'l find it thrilling, but as you get deeper into its pages, you start losing the interest. What's the reason for that? Do you blame the author for he/she couldn't write it in a way as to keep the readers interested all through the end? Or is it because we change our interests quite faster than the speed with which we read the book?
Is it all that natural to change interests so soon? After all, why do we get attracted to something? Is it because, the color is nice, texture is nice, or is it because no one else possesses such a thing? And when it comes to persons, why do we find someone very interesting? There are people who have excellent skills , be it public speaking, some game or art or anything. And all of us wil be attracted to these people one or the other time. They will have had an impression on us. And that if it's a good one, we think it's the best one. But not many of us wil know if it's truly a quality the person has that creates an impression. When it comes to certain skills, it certainly can be for we'l have the proof right before our eyes. But when it is not, for example, a candidate in an interview, who projects himself as the right one for the post, tries in all possible ways to make a good first impression, how can one gauge that? How can one guarantee if that 'first good impression' wil become the 'best' in coming years or if it's going to be a farce.
There are two categories of people. Who like the things just opposite to themselves and those who like those which are just like them. I guess, instead of calling them things, i should address as people! Which of them is better? By learning something what i'm not, or what i don't know, it would be complementary to my personality right? If i fear speaking in public, I'd naturally get attracted to someone who is comfortable with that. But at the same time, i feel the people who are with me, agree to my terms, tell what i say is right and i naturally look out for people who agree to my terms. And at such times, how does one decide which one to follow? Right it depends on context..But if not many, atleast some of us will have been faced with this dilemma, whether to follow what someone else says or to enforce my own views on others? I've certainly felt this at times.
It's said,the more you get closer to something, the more you'l understand the depths of it. Such being the case, how can one say first impression is the best impression? What does one do, if a person turns out not according to the impression he created of himself? Who do we blame? Is it our naivety we blame or the other person for his/her pretence? I've not got an answer to this till today...Hoping to find some day i'm adding this one to my list of unanswered questions :)
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