In my college days the most popular topic for debate used to be 'love marriages and arranged marriages'. But these days it is to be changed to 'live in relationships or marriage' i guess. With the supreme court ruling that says no legal issues with live-in relationships, it just occured to me, is it only law which builds a healthy society? In a society like ours which took decades to accept the love marriages where even to this day there are people who attach
a stigma to the very idea, what good can a concept of 'live-in' do? 'Marriage' in itself is an idea which our people have given us for a better way of life. Just because it is followed from thousands of years it doesnt mean one has to discard it in order to be/be called 'modern'. What is it that makes a relationship- love or trust or commitment or responsibility or all of them? If it is a relationship of convenience, there is no place for all said above. Apart from emotional aspects, what could be other consequences?Looking at the statistics of dowry deaths, domestic violence, what is the guarantee that this law is not misused and doesnt result in undue effects on society. Of course it is undeniable that the institution of marriage comes with its own pros and cons. but does that mean live-in could be a substitute for that? what should we focus on- empowering women with more moral and legal support to have a successful life or should we resort to 'relationships of convenience' ? At the end, one cant stop thinking of this- what about the children of tomorrow? what values would be left to pass onto them and what could be expected of them??? All said and done, ultimately it is for an individual to decide , is it necessary to 'live-in' or can we -'leave it out'?
U know.. a few issues in life are a bit confusing.. U just don't know how to react-whether to hate them or reject them or just ignore// this to me is one of those issues!
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ReplyDeletenice post. highly debatable though. as with the other posts, this does provoke the grey matter. i m glad u addressed both sides of the coin there even though i noticed u are a tad bit partial to the marriage concept :-). so i thot i ll elucidate further on the pros and cons that u mentioned in your post. does 'marriage' in your post mean a legal union of two people and their obligation to society and its morals thereon ?
ReplyDeleteif yes, doesn it seem that people are more attached to what society perceives them to be and are not true to their own feelings (yes, there is an allusion to u r individuality vs impression post here :-P) how many love lost couples have we seen wherein a couple stays on just because they are bound by societal imposition. this often leads to straying and we are introduced to terms like extra-marital affairs n so such. children in such broken families too imbibe a hostile mentality.
on the other hand, live-in couples are too harshly accused of being starved of morals. tho i d agree it doesnt go too well with our sensitive and cultural upbringing, we are looking at people who just are together because they love each other. [ like your pic says- sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand :-P ] they are not bound by a legal agreement or a mangalsutra. they do not care for what society perceives them to be. at this juncture, they sometimes do make weddings seem like showcasing.
personally, i too will fly in the direction of the wedding winds coz we tend to think-if we can commit, why not wed ? true, but we ought to give the live-in couples a bit of a breather, and - the benefit of the doubt. :-) like u have put up your windup, i too would leave it to individuals and make a safe conclusion :-).
"is it necessary to 'live-in' or can we -'leave it out'?"..........wat a punching end!
ReplyDeleteMarriage in itself is a beautiful institution of family up bringing, to pass on moral values to the next generation and make the world a family.
"VASUDEVA KUTUMBAKAUM " to live in Harmony.